It’s mid February already. So much has been happening, it’s hard to slow down and let myself rest in the sheer pleasure of being back in school. I sometimes feel like a sponge as I drive home from school, having soaked up every minute of the reading, class time, the purpose and unity of being in school for something that is starting to seem like a natural fit. And still, I hope I always feel like there is more to learn, explore.
And, in all of that, I am trying hard to carve out time to keep reading. It keeps me challenged and curious.
Lately, I’ve been reading Dan Allender’s book, To Be Told: Know Your Story, Shape Your Future. And I could go on and on. But, I’ll try to keep this brief. Allender is a Psychologist and founder of the Allender Center at the Seattle School. He’s also the author of several books. His theories approach trauma and abuse with the story telling power of the gospel.
I learned of Dr. Allender through a podcast my mother sent me and since I have been recommending it to anyone who will listen to me. It’s that good. Adam Young is a Christian counselor in Fort Collins, Colorado and his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves, has a way of framing our trauma and abuse within the context of stories. Let’s just say, he speaks my language and I have come to a deeper understanding of the power of our stories once again. Go listen to it.
So, back to the book. To Be Told centers itself around how we arrange our stories as we tell it to ourselves, as well as how we share it with the people we surround ourselves with. I was immediately drawn to this authors voice. The compassion and empathy. Allender gives the distinct impression that he is sitting on your back porch with you as the evening is winding down and he Is deeply curious about what you have to say because maybe, just maybe your story is about more than just you. But, you are the only one on earth who can tell it. This is a gift.
”Our plot is an encounter with the heartache and dreams and desires related to our personal tragedies—the events of our life that occurs between fall and redemption and, ultimately, glorification” (p. 15).
If you are looking for a handbook on how to tell your story in a healing way, this is it.
This is Not the End,